Understanding Children – 5 Love Languages

A Love Language, according to author Gary Chapman, is the way we express love and affection to others and the way we feel about things being done to or for us. We normally have a Primary Love Language around receiving / giving love in all it’s forms. They may be different for giving than receiving.

  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch (including hugging, a comforting arm on your back, hand holding)
  • Gifts (can be small; a trinket, some home-baking, a personalised item)
  • Acts of Service
  • Words of Affirmation

Understanding that although our children are heavily influenced by us as parents and carers, they do not necessarily mirror our ways of feeling and showing love. This concept was encapsulated in book(s) by Gary Chapman called The Five Love Languages.

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Children can benefit greatly from understanding that we all appreciate things differently and we are particularly drawn to particular ways of expressing appreciation and love. We are not all the same.