Developing Self Regulation, Empathy and Confidence in self.
The more children interact, the more they need to be understood and, naturally, the more they need to understand others. That means, bit by bit, getting really good at learning about people who you don’t know so well, and often, who are not yet experts at expressing themselves. Babies start reading body language and facial expressions, as well as tone from an incredibly young age, recognising their mother’s face from birth to some expressions within the first few days. Babies are born primed for Connection and so this is vital for well-being, development, growth – and initially, for survival.
So what’s next? Learning to identify, name, and productively use your emotion in a way which is beneficial takes years (to maturity), so the early start children have is very important. Being responsive and loving (giving security, warm and positively attached care) means giving emotion and receiving the child’s. Emotional Intelligence is now recognised as being as important in Learning, and more important in the combination of Health and Learning.
Babies arrive already connected to other people.
They arrive in the world as persons, already interested in other people’s facial expressions, rhythms and movements. They are able to communicate.
They have brains that automatically read meaning in the actions of other people.
Babies arrive already connected to other people. They arrive in the world as persons, already interested in other people’s facial expressions, rhythms and movements. They are able to communicate.
They have brains that automatically read meaning in the actions of other people. These are some of the insights that we are gaining from sciences like developmental psychology and neuroscience.
We are learning that babies are born as engaged, relational beings.
They don’t develop social skills later on, such as when they begin to talk or become preschoolers. Their social skills are present from birth.
The way that those skills develop will depend on how other people engage with them, and those experiences will shape the neural pathways in their brain.
This is not the vision that we have always held of babies. It wasn’t very long ago that science thought babies’ mental and emotional worlds were a bit of a blur or that babies were rather socially isolated and inward-focused.
The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.
Catch Our Children Before They Fall. Have a look to understand more what happens to a child when we break connection.
Helping to Nurture Emotional Intelligence in our Children.
We can do a lot, and sometimes it starts with what we do ourselves, but teaching empathy and how to manage our own emotions starts with it being modelled by the adults. Nature’s way. We were all born to be interdependent, not fully independent and only fully dependent when we are newborns / infants.
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